Thoughts on Complaining

 

Everytime I complain about anything, I am declaring "I'm a victim."

Knees hurt? What am I doing about it? Exercising? Eating healthier or just complaining?

Can't stand the President? What am I doing about that? Getting involved? Donating to candidates who align with my values? Tuning him out? Or just complaining?

My job isn't going the way I want? What can I do to fix that? What can I do to change the status quo? How can I work smarter? Or am I just complaining about my current circumstances?

Relationship problems? What about MY attitude needs to be adjusted? Are my expectations unrealistic? Am I trying to control or coerce someone else instead of accepting the person as they are, or working to improve my own emotional intelligence? I have the power to change myself or change the value I place on the relationship. Complaining about it changes nothing and gives up my power.

Complaining is human nature. But if I consider that everytime I complain about something, I'm saying "I'm a victim", would I think twice about complaining?

I would much rather be someone who acts, than someone who is acted upon.

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